Agree, there is, that a partner, dushoju which and acts you admire and about night with which dreamt literally, suddenly it appears is not too good in bed. Why so it turns out? Whether so it is bad as the lover? The reason of the similar... In sexual incompatibility, instead of in its inconsistency!

In a large quantity of divorces at all it is not necessary to blame wreck of a love boat about a life and serious divergences for systems of values.

More often the reason is banal - sex, namely - catastrophic misunderstanding each other in territory of a matrimonial bed.

It is a question of sexual compatibility - the guarantor of personal happiness. Astrologists, sexologists and psychologists have deduced the formulas of sexual compatibility.

1. The conflict of temperaments

Sexual compatibility directly depends on sexual temperament which, as is known, exists three kinds: strong, average and weak. Temperament to bring up it is impossible.

We are born with certain level of sexual hormones, our nervous activity - without dependence from our desire - works in the rhythm, therefore the sexual temperament reMAINs invariable throughout all life.

Owners of strong sexual temperament in the childhood quite often named akseleratami. They early ripen, early start to live a sexual life and deliver to the parents many efforts.

Sex occupies one of the first places in their life, and sometimes there is an impression what exactly is aimed at sexual satisfaction all their existence. Daily employment by sex - norm for this type of the sexual constitution.

As a rule, it is women and men of low or average growth with raised ovoloseniem on a body (fault to all testosterony). Extroverts, energetic and self-assured people.

Owners of weak sexual temperament ripen much after many contemporaries.

They begin a sexual life almost for ten years later, than representatives of strong temperament, but quite often appear one-woman men and build strong families which a life, "a grey hair in a beard" appear are not terrible.

Sex of times in a week quite suffices them, other sincere forces leave on romanticism and friendly conversations under a blanket.

As a rule, it is high thin men and women. At women a small breast and narrow hips, at men - thin womanly figures without special "woolliness".

Representatives of average sexual temperament the majority, and their sexual preferences strongly vary between two above described extreme measures.

Certainly, the man with strong sexual temperament accepts the same partner, and on the contrary. Problems begin when we build the union without sexual compatibility.

From here - expression "family sex", become by an ordinary and boredom synonym, from here changes and crises.

2. Whether your planets are on friendly terms?

The most popular approach to sexual compatibility - astrological.

It is considered, that if your planet is in negative aspect to a partner planet relations will start to go to pieces sooner or later.

For example, Scales and the Aries will clash, reflecting a space duel of planets prevailing over them - Venus and Mars.

But do not hasten to trust sexual horoscopes blindly.

The professional astrologist who will make your personal horoscope can give more or less exact forecast only and will formulate some instructions for sexual compatibility.

3. The Woman-mother searches for the man-son

Sexual compatibility is inseparable from psychotypes of partners.

So. The woman-mother waits the man on whom can give vent, at last, to all boundless care, therefore the infantile man-son becomes the best partner for it.

The woman-victim wishes to submit, feel a weak victim in hands of an omnipotent man-aggressor.

As a rule, such woman has variety of favourite Hollywood actors, and their lines make its ideal: Wines the Diesel engine, Stephen Sigal, as a last resort, Kianu Rivz and James Bond in any ipostasi.

The woman-aggressor in a pointed manner contemptiously concerns all representatives of a masculine gender. It it is underlined it is independent, independent and strong.

She competes to the man and prefers to be from above - in all senses. The Man-aggressor will provoke the present war, and here the man-victim becomes suitable extraction of such woman.

The woman-daughter prefers to live for the husband, as behind a stone wall. It is ready to depend completely on the favourite person if only that cared of it, indulgently concerned its weaknesses and has relieved of necessity to earn money.

The unique possible partner which will provide absolute sexual compatibility - the man-father.

4. We with you of one blood...

Japanese consider, that sexual compatibility depends on blood group.

Men and women of I group - most sexually active, their thoughts come back to sex each nine seconds.

Thus women of this group give all sexuality to the unique partner - to the husband more often.

Women of II group are most passive, they are reputed as iron ladies and biznesvumen. The man of this group is irresolute and closed, and employment by sex for it are inseparable from deep emotional contact.

The woman of III group of blood does not find in sex anything curious. It with ease and negligence concerns the sexual contacts, quite often misses in bed and prefers to sex set of other hobbies.

The same moods are peculiar also to the man: sex for it - entertainment, is not better and is not worse than any other daily hobby.

The woman of IV group of blood can practically take pleasure with each partner, it easily adapts to the man with any temperament and differs really powerful libido.

The man of this group has got used to dement women and, unlike the man with I group, sex for it - not an instinct, and art.

The greatest compatibility is provided with coincidence of groups of blood of partners. Also it is quite good, if blood groups appear "next" - I and II, III IV.

5. Diagnoses does not exist!

Nevertheless, there is no universal formula of sexual compatibility. For example, "the temperamental model" has one "but".

For weak sexual temperament quite often accept the qualities imparted by Puritan education, deformed by complexes and negative experience of MAIN life.

Unfortunately, so happens: passionate by nature the woman after couple of years of a matrimonial life with far not the best man becomes reserved, suppresses the sexuality and the Dark blue stocking turns to the Ms.

Do not hasten to hang up on itself labels and to give up as a bad job mutual relations: heart-to-heart talks with the psychoanalyst, the family psychotherapist or the sexologist work wonders.

Also there are no bad psychotypes: problems begin when people play another's roles.

The infantile man should pretend to be the head of the family while above all it would like to shift duties on shoulders of the careful woman-mother.

The man-victim adjusts itself to parametres of the man "average, strong, courageous", and at this time the woman-aggressor stays in proud and hopeless loneliness.

Here there can not be other council, except as "be itself and do not go on compromises with own requirements".

And the set of problems with inappropriate group of blood can resolve the creative approach to sexual relations and trust to the partner.

For example, the same classification asserts, that if the man manages to "wake" the lady of II group, equal to it will not be.

Do not hasten to destroy "incompatible" relations, - search for new possibilities within the limits of already existing union.

The comment of the expert:

Maria Zolotov, the doctor-dermatovenerolog:

«Besides the above described reasons, sexual incompatibility can arise at so-called physiological sexual incompatibility.

The similar variant of disharmony meets at discrepancy of the sizes of genitals of sexual partners. For example, the big sexual member and a narrow vagina. At such combination the woman will test more likely painful sensations, rather than pleasure.

On the contrary, at the small size of a genital at the man and great volume of a vagina at the woman, also will be faster to lead to a dissatisfaction with sexual relations.

In some cases to overcome physiological sexual incompatibility it is possible by a choice of optimum poses for employment by sex, in some is not present.

The modern medicine can offer and such variants, as, use of special adaptations for the sexual member, limiting depth of its penetration, surgical and bezoperatsionnye methods on increase in a sexual member, ushivanie vaginas at its great volume. How much often there is a given type of incompatibility to tell difficultly, it is considered, that similar problems - a rarity.

Some conditions and diseases can lead also to disharmony in sexual relations. For example, premature semjaizverzhenie, a prostatitis, an impotence, inflammatory diseases of genitals. The given conditions demand the unconditional reference to the doctor.

Psychological and psycho-physiological variants of sexual incompatibility are much more widespread. Two these of a variant differ from each other.

Psychological sexual incompatibility is characterised by the various relation of partners to a sex theme in general, to oral sex, analnomu to sex, group sex, a choice of the sexual positions, each of them has the borders permitted and readiness for those or other experiments.

The given kind of sexual incompatibility is difficult enough for overcoming independently without the aid of the skilled doctor-sexologist.

As to psycho-physiological incompatibility, incompatibility from for different sexual temperaments about it it is very in detail written above.

Choosing the sexual partner, be guided not only physiology, but also feelings. And MAIN thing, do not judge the sexual partner only on the first episode of sexual affinity.

At sexual relations with the constant sexual partner duration of sexual intercourse increases, there are closer and confidential relations which are difficult for achieving at the first sexual contact ».

Darya PETCHORIN

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Sex besides pleasure brings and many problems. To physical affinity except quite healthy people aspire also elderly, pregnant, suffering barreness... And in each of these cases with a sexual life many problems are connected.

Sex at mature age

For some reason it is considered to be, that old men are not engaged in sex and do not test in it any need. However researches show, that it at all so.

Except age on sexual activity in an old age the big influence three more parametres - sexual activity during a life render, a condition of physical and mental health. It appears, the majority of people which have got used to frequent sexual communications, conduct an active sexual life and after 80 years. Certainly, if it allows a condition of their health. Older persons not only feel necessity for sex, but quite often receive from it even bolshee, than in a youth, pleasure.

Among complexities with which, wishing to adjust the sexual life, older persons face, the important role is played by somatic diseases. Especially uneasy it is necessary what joints are amazed by an arthritis. It is not necessary to forget also about illnesses of cardiovascular system which do not allow people to transfer even insignificant physical activity.

Certainly, there are also difficulties of the socially-psychological plan. In a society there are standards of beauty and sexual appeal. And older persons take hard, up to occurrence of depressions, that every year this "standard" all further and to find to itself the partner it is almost impossible. Especially difficult it is necessary the become a widow/widower women, because in their age group, as a rule, serious "lack" of men.

Sexual problems of older persons, not wishing that, doctors aggravate even. The matter is that many of them divide a stereotype, that the sexual life is not necessary to old men. As a result, neither the doctor, nor the patient do not dare to start talking about sexual problems and consequently, do not solve them.

Sexual life at barreness

It would seem, barreness should not stir a usual sexual life in any way. However, psychologists, in practice speak it not so. First, this disease is the reason of anxiety, despair, depression which, undoubtedly, influence a sexual life.

Besides it to close relations stirs process of treatment of barreness: the matter is that many necessary medical examinations are spent only to the short period of time after sexual intercourse. Accordingly last from physiological requirement turns to requirement purely medical. And, unpleasant.

For the pairs, suffering barreness, the risky sexual behaviour is characteristic. Thinking, that it will help to solve their problems, they go on casual communications, neglecting thus protection frames from venereal diseases. Sometimes at them the aspiration to the perverted kinds of sexual intercourses is traced.

Sex and pregnancy

One more condition which complicates a sexual life, pregnancy is. With vynashivaniem the child very serious changes in an organism of the woman are connected: from a figure to a hormonal background and behaviour. Therefore the majority of pregnant women consider, that to the child can damage many earlier habitual things. For example, there is an opinion, that the sexual life during pregnancy leads nevynashivaniju, to premature and prompt sorts, and also congenital uglinesses.

However, as results of researches testify, the regular sexual life practically does not affect in any way a current of first two trimesters of pregnancy. The unique problem - sexual intercourse can be painful enough for the woman. And in this case, really, sexual life can be stopped temporarily.

Sexual infringements during pregnancy are characteristic not only for the woman, but also for its partner-man. He, as well as his wife, frequently is afraid to harm the future child and avoids sexual contacts. Against this phobia can develop and purely "man's" infringements - an impotence and premature ejakuljatsija.

Three described above a condition - barreness, an old age and pregnancy is only examples from a number of factors which make considerable impact on a sexual life. Besides it, sexual infringements arise because of illnesses, psychological and physical traumas and many other things circumstances...

And, coming to the doctor, the patient it is not necessary to hesitate to speak about the intimate problems connected with the basic disease. On the other hand, it is a pity, that the doctor is not interested in infringements in sexual sphere - he considers it not as the business. And in vain. The majority of such problems are quite solved.

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You sometime thought of what sexual life, for example, at inhabitants of Thailand or Africa? Is not present? And in vain. Sexual preferences in the different countries very various.

India

India is among those countries where still try to observe all customs and traditions. For example, unlike the standard abstention before wedding the Indian inhabitants abstain from sex after wedding! A pier, it is necessary to get accustomed at first, well to learn each other, and sex and other similar nonsenses can be left on then. But free men and women have sex when want and where want, and are engaged in it long and delightfully. I think, you have already guessed, that speech has gone about tantristah. Tantristy, people engaged the Tantra-yoga, are convinced of divine mission of love. For them sex it not simply physical communication of two opposite sexes, but also spiritual. Tantristy make love only to the favourite person, instead of with the first comer. Love pleasure at them can last some hours, partners tyre each other out.

Thailand

All have got used to think of Thailand as almost about one of the most dissolute and liberated countries. And after all actually all yes on the contrary. Everything, as to levity concerns only tourists and visitors. Actually with a sexual life at them it is difficult. To the man to persuade the woman to make love before wedding extremely difficult, and all because dobrachnye communications there are very categorical. But, if young all the same not "doterpeli", they ask pardons for spirits of ancestors. And before marriage night, the huge cat should visit a room of a newly-married couple at first, he promises to make a life newly married happy and long!

Japan

Inhabitants of the country of a rising sun concern very quiveringly a sexual life. First time after acquaintance loving pair alone do not leave. Always there should be a matchmaker (as a rule, this role is executed always by the mother-in-law). All this time she assiduously praises highly the child – that better her son simply is not present anybody on light. There was at Japanese such custom – the first marriage night should pass in presence of the mother-in-law (well, that it was earlier) which learnt the daughter-in-law how correctly to caress her son! The doctrine for in vain is visible has not passed, time of the Japanese is considered as the best sexual partners in the world. Has not managed at Japanese and without the traditional holidays, one of which is the fertility holiday, which symbol – a phallus! What is, the length of this "unit" reaches 2,5 m! All representatives of a female aim will touch «a fertility symbol», under the legend it should bring it of strong kiddies. And here that in a family there was a harmony and mutual understanding Japanese celebrate other holiday of fertility – as you already, probably, has guessed a symbol is – a vagina! Interestingly, how much nevertheless Japanese in marriage are happy?

England

England – the most frigid country! 80 % of women and 73 % of men in this country have sex only with one partner, and every eighth of them had sexual relations unless 1-2 times for the last year! Yes … Englishmen it not Frenchmen, passion not their role.

Yes what to speak, if during the Victorian epoch of the lady from society should lay in bed in literal sense as a log. Any movements, ohov and ahov should not be was. Probably therefore all high-ranking men ran from the wives to passionate laundresses.

But, that the most interesting Englishmen are quite happy with the sexual life, considering, that the most important quality, instead of quantity. Well, unless it is possible to argue with it?

Germany

The country of sex shops, erotic video, pletok and handcuffs. It is difficult to assume, that in this country once there were interdictions and sex customs. In Sverdnevekove, hot German men took with themselves in bed – are not present, not the mother-in-law – an axe! They sincerely believed, that if during time orgazma will get an axe, moreover and will show to his wife it is obligatory to be born the boy. Miraculously, the truth? But judging because now so nobody does, the given tradition has appeared not effective.

Africa

Here where sexual etiquette as they say without restrictions. Inhabitants of Africa presume to themselves all – oral sex, group sex, svinger etc. But, however, Africans quickly justify the "bad" behaviour that all it promotes a crop! Here so go since morning in the field and "invite" a crop as soon as "will call in" go MAIN.

Men also are authorised to have so much wives, how many they will wish – yes, in Africa the harem too is extended.

As to ancient customs which have sunk into oblivion at their Africans was much. For example, to deprive of virginity the girl the groom, and the leader should not. Well, Africans have understood, that here anything cheerful is not present and have improved tradition. Now the bride has a good time with all visitors of a holiday as it is cheerful, probably, during such moments to the groom!

America

Here about what it is possible to write the whole book, so it about sexual etiquette of the United States – each staff – the laws. And these laws at times reach to the point of irrationality. For example, in the State of Louisiana a duty to get a condom lays down on fragile shoulders of the woman if the man tries to buy a protection subject, it can fine. Or still other not less absurd law – in the State of Florida to have sex it is possible only in darkness, only in messionerskoj to a pose and the man has not the right to kiss a breast of the woman. Interestingly, who it checks and how many already fined lovers?

If you will be going to go to America, specify what laws in that staff where you go. Much not informed tourists, probably, opened there the purses.

Summing up, it would be desirable to tell – as well, that we have freedom in choosing, the personal inviolable life for which the page in the criminal code is not taken away.

Note source:

In a family the girl is born and during one fine time becomes the woman. By sight. But the weight of women in a shower and reMAINs little girls. These "girls" wait for the prince, try to draw attention of men all accessible means.

Besides the stamp is still hardy, that men love weak women.

And here the adult woman pretends to be naive: she that is capricious, hesitates. At it even the voice in the presence of the man varies. Here just she normally spoke with the girlfriend, sister, the waitress, but it was necessary to appear to the man as she starts to speak thin golosochkom the little girl.

Such woman communicates with any man in the slightest degree suitable in grooms, as with the father.

It embarrasses and giggles to a place and out of place.

To the majority of men the woman behaving in a similar way is absolutely uninteresting.

It, of course, not against in the future to be the father to the children, but – not to own wife.

On light ever less the men, wishing to receive in the wife the helpless child. At them enough the problems that also constantly to resolve yours and to listen hours of the complaint by phone.

If want ponyt, call the girlfriend.

In the same case if you catch in husbands "daddy", be ready to constant control and impossibility to accept independently though any decisions.

Antipode of "woman-girl" is "woman-mother".

We constantly hear, that men are big children, that the husband is only one more child in a family.

This harmful error has spoilt a life not to one married couple.

If the man wished to live with mummy, it with it and veins, instead of took the beloved in the wife.

Address with the husband as with the adult, mature person.

Do not supervise it and do not dictate, as to it to arrive otherwise. It has a head, and he knows, that to it to do. Do not keep ringing to it for work if you do not have on that weighty reason.

If the husband rises for work earlier, than you do not jump from bed, easy continue to sleep. He knows, where at you kitchen and where there is a refrigerator so will perfectly have breakfast without your guardianship.

If your husband does something not so from your point of view, never chide it as nashkodivshego the kid. Simply try to offer the variant, ask, whether he thinks, that here so to make – better. Also do not impose the point of view. Reconcile that he thinks differently.

If has put occurs in public let your husband one thousand times is not right, be not justified before present, and support it immediately.

And only reMAINed alone, you can state the disagreement.

And the most important thing if the woman incurs a role of the tutor, the careful mother, the man loses to it sexual interest.

What normal man will want to sleep with own mother?

Therefore be simply the woman having the interests, the sights and seeing in the partner simply favourite and desired man.

Natalia Antonova

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According to sociologists, Europeans after parting find the new partner within one-four months, and in Russia this process quite often occupies some years. Moreover, many of those who has once gone through divorce (half of men and three quarters of women), do not enter repeated marriage never. Than to explain this phenomenon? I believe, one of MAIN reasons - aspiration peculiar to much our compatriots to "serious" relations and readiness to depreciate in advance any contact mismatching this overestimated lath.

In comparison with pragmatic Europeans we and today in much bigger degree idealists and extremists. All of us raised in traditions "a crane in the sky, instead of a titmouse in hands", "all or anything" which as a matter of fact are constructed on dissotsiatsii, rupture of two worlds - ideal and real. Thus the ideal world is extolled by us, while the world real, on the contrary, is belittled, denied, ignored. We will recollect thereupon at least axiomatic literary antipodes - "not ours" resourceful expert SHtoltsa and "our", native sluggard-dreamer Oblomova. Likely, in a shower of each person lives some kind of internal Oblomov, directed not to a reality, but away from it - to an unattainable abstract ideal. At times (especially often it occurs after rupture of relations) it can amplify, starting to dictate to us the will and imposing certain type of behaviour. As result many people for years live as though within a vicious circle, suffering from loneliness, but and not daring to overcome the hidden barrier separating them from associates.

Meanwhile in the aspiration to serious relations there is nothing shameful. Out of them it is difficult to present a matrimony, a family, children. The problem arises when the one who long time had no relations, aspires to enter at once in serious - and disagrees on any compromises. I will afford a metaphor: the person very much wishes to go to Tibet or at least to Baikal, but here only cannot in any way (and, MAIN thing, does not wish) to leave for a threshold of own apartment.

In my opinion, a unique way to overcome internal Oblomova - readiness to establish and keep in touch people round us. Not "romantic", not "promising", but the most usual human relations. And then, if we will not hurry up, run forward and to put before ourselves obviously unattainable purposes, very much can be, that any of them really will outgrow in something bolshee. After all eventually, serious our relations we do not so much, how many a life.

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