Shuisky absolutely unexpectedly admitted love after two years after acquaintance.

The feeling was such strong, that I have absolutely lost for some time reason and will, itself not noticing that.

Mum at once has paid attention to Shuisky's lacks. She spoke: the person is brought badly up, not always adequately itself conducts, at it definitely difficult character. But what there: I flied on wings of new love to light distances …

I still officially have not divorced with Lenej – have simply collected things and have left.

The first month with Shuisky has passed in full euphoria.

Weddings too any were not. Simply began live together. And I could then to think of any bureaucratic procedures when scarlet sails have appeared at my landing stage?

It was unique happy, nothing the saddened month of my life with Shuisky for ten years of marriage.

… We loved each other, we wandered across Moscow, we went on the market and bought there house cheese with which houses ate with honey.

Sadism

And here morning in Cologne. Shuisky has risen because of a trifle. I have asked, when we will go to shop. It jumps up to me one jump and cries out directly in the person:

– What creature!

I at all have not understood, in whose address the insult. Absolutely was struck dumb.

And all. After that Shuisky has ceased to talk to me. Such here unmotivated flash. I understood nothing.

Shuisky's behaviour did not keep within any logic.

I have faced for the first time absurdity of a sadism and violence. I did not understand, that occurs.

We have passed through France, Belgium, Luxembourg. Places of fantastic beauty! Stopped in small hotels. Some hotels took places directly in ancient castles …

All this time Shuisky with me – words.

I observed beauty of Europe through a veil of tears. Three days has cried in the car without a stop. From humiliation. Money all at Shuisky, documents too at it.

I from quite independent person have in a moment turned to being absolutely deprived of civil rights. In the person connected on hands and feet.

Then has a little come to the senses. I think: I will arrive to Moscow, the documents I will take away. Also forgive-forgive.

Has not passed also ten years as I so have arrived.

Pardon

We have returned to Cologne. Had not time to arrive – phone call: at Shuisky in Irkutsk the father has died.

To me became it so it is a pity. I have imagined at once, that I would feel, if my father does not become …

Poor Shuisky! He speaks:

– You me forgive that I so conducted myself. You for me the most expensive person on light. It is more than you in a life I will never offend!

I have, of course, forgiven him.

It then on me yet did not lift a hand. Simply boorish behaviour took place. I also could not assume, that the woman can be beaten. Thought: it happens in families of alcoholics. But that in broad daylight, the civilised person, on a sober head …

In Moscow the usual life has begun. Shuisky then terribly drank. Blew on a bottle of whisky in day.

And here we somehow gather for shooting. He asks me:

– You remember, we in Germany to you perchatochki have bought – black such, with a fringe? You do not know, where they?

– Sash, I can not find. All has touched – they anywhere are not present.

– How is not present?! We have brought them!

– We have forgotten them.

Also I dare to remind about speed from which I had to gather on its favour.

It is sharply developed and from all scope beats me on the person.

I had something like short circuit. Even be ill I has not felt. I could not understand: for what have struck me.

To grow I in other family, face I earlier house violence, I would be better ready to such life. And it is all I has received after Laziness which from me blew off motes. I do not remember, that my first husband, leaving transport, has not offered to me a hand. Or has not helped to put on a coat. All with me: be so kind as, excuse, please … And suddenly – such horror!

Within several months on me the stream «new and interesting» information which I was unable digest was splashed out.

I have left, in what was. It to me even things to collect has not allowed. Clearly: on its money all is bought! Has slammed a door. Has waited at metro station doors while it has opened. Also began to go for a drive on the ring. During any moment I have fallen asleep, because have not slept.

Went-went. Has woken up and think: where I now will go, to whom?

Shuisky for these months has managed somehow akkuratnenko to remove all my friends. Such love: to me during that moment anybody, except my hero, was not necessary. Has decided to call Shuisky and to ask, that it has simply given my things. Let will return though with what I to it have come.

I come back. I come into an entrance. The lift did not work, therefore it was necessary to rise on foot.

Already approaching to our floor, I have heard, as with a characteristic sound the metal door of apartment of Shuisky has slammed. On a ladder face to face I have faced any young woman. I have understood at once: it left from it.

Shuisky has opened before me a door:

– Come!

Passion

The love does not leave in a flash. Trouble, and accident that it to destroy are sometimes necessary not simply.

… I all the same loved it. Shuisky peacefully strolled on a court yard with a bull terrier on a lead. And I silently cried at a window: how I am more never than it I will see, I will not hear its voice, I will not feel a smell of its cologne?

How my life will be without this love? Unless I can somebody else so strongly to love?

I then often enough called to mum, but about the relations with Shuisky anything to it did not tell. I regretted parents.

Everyone if it is possible so to be expressed, career achievement of those years, is connected in my consciousness with the next circle of a hell through which I was spent by my benefactor.

Moscow. A concert hall "Russia". I step on the stage after the first round of competition «the Step to Parnassus». I am happy? My dreams have come true? I think, as though it is better to act? By no means. At me bruise carefully covered with a make-up in all cheek. And I am happy that at least one instant on a scene, in the light of spotlights, on eyes of thousand spectators I in safety.

I could not explain myself motives of behaviour of Shuisky. But firmly understood one: I have got, and have got strong.

Probably, if I stop loving Shuisky, I would find in myself forces once and for all to tear with it. But feelings … They lived, they anywhere do not share. They also held me about my torturer.

The despot

Probably, the normal person, reading these lines, will think: «a confession of the masochist». There is an erroneous opinion: from house violence both parties receive pleasure: both torturing, and tortured. I swear: is not present on light of the woman which with impatience waits when the husband MAIN will return and properly it will beat.

All horror of a situation consists that the most terrible house despot sometimes, having understood, that has gone too far, arranges to the victim short, but a remembered honeymoon.

It appears at it in an image of the man of its dream – in whom it is no time so has strongly fallen in love, of whom she always dreamt … It repents, is sorry. And to a victim starts to seem: the torturer has thought again, it has followed a way of correction and a life will change for the better.

Before me of a photo of that time. A short hairstyle. The cold, discharged sight. Languid poses. Twilight. Leather trousers. Dark tone. Strict breed.

Dispassionateness … Not line peculiar to me. But then it was partially my inwardness. Probably, protective reaction of mentality has worked: it seemed to me, I observe of all occurring with the party. Here I sing from a scene and I see myself as though spectator eyes. Here the man beats the woman. This woman – I. But I as though do not feel a pain. I only the detached onlooker …

Shuisky has thought up for me a specific manner of behaviour, is absolute to me not the peculiar. I should represent from myself on public the haughty lady. I should be polite, but is cold. I remember, has read silently article of the musical critic written at that time Troitsk: on a scene there was a penguin. Recently has seen videorecordings of those years. My God, what nightmare! Neither to give, nor to take – the present penguin!

Pregnancy

There was a 1992. I have found out, that I wait for the child. I think: what to do? I since young years had a firm installation: abortions I will not do. I call to mum, I inform it news. Mum answers:

– Well and it is good. The age has approached. It is a high time – to give birth in 25 first children.

In 1993 we have gone in Atkarsk. Business was in May, before the sorts. I – with such huge stomach. Have arrived to undersign, make all papers. Has officially divorced from Yaroshevsky. Has changed a name. So, instead of Perfilovoj Alla Jurevny, on light has appeared Shujsky Valery Jurevna.

Pregnancy was surprisingly easy.

Shuisky behaved as a real angel. For all pregnancy has beaten me only once. And that – so, on a trifle. Before the sorts it in an insignificant occasion had a fury flash, and it has whacked me whether on a hand, whether on a foot the dog lead.

Now I understand, it was an ugly way to keep me about itself.

When was born Anja, the senior daughter, Shuisky took it on hands and again has not shed a few tears nearly.

He called to me in maternity MAIN and spoke:

– Lera, forgive me for all torments which I have caused you. Here you will see, I will change. You are more never than anything similar in the life will see.

I, clear business, again to it have believed.

Shuisky buys an izba on kurih legs in Krekshine – in 22 kilometres from Moscow. Without stoppers there to reach not for long. And in stoppers – one and a half hour: the Minsk highway.

Shuisky hastily somehow has adapted this country "country house" for a life. And here I, Anka, Shuisky, dogs and servant Valentine – in one room. The assistant sleeps behind a screen. I – all in feedings, kefirchikah, tvorozhkah for the child. (I always prepared meal for a daughter itself). Works are not present.

So have lived almost year. It was soon found out: I am again pregnant. The doctor has advised:

– It is impossible so to load an organism – do abortion.

We have paid for pregnancy interruption. On the last uzi the doctor shows to me on the device screen:

– At you month of pregnancy. Look, heart of the child already fights!

I have told:

– I will not do abortion.

Also has left. Money and has not taken away.

Expectation

I all became more known. And my life – all is more terrible and more hopeless. The most dreadful period of my life which has coincided with my second pregnancy and the first years of a life of my sonny of the Theme has begun.

Whether Shuisky wished to have children? Like yes. When I have told: there will be one more child, he was delighted …

To theme, to poor my second child, in a stomach has most got.

When I waited for it, Shuisky has taken a great interest in cocaine. In a combination to alcohol it is an infernal cocktail. My partner in life became completely uncontrollable.

I terribly was afraid of it. Arrived my parents could not help.

When I passed by it, Shuisky always aimed to kick me, to push, strike a fist. I began to go on the house with "protection" – mother drove me everywhere under the handle, as small. He talked to the father so:

– I you, old, now in a moment will lay …

My mum covered with such words – I and I can not repeat.

Their presence urged on Shuisky even more. Probably, he considered: bloody representation requires spectators.

We with Shuisky have arrived on "Mosfilm" – to prepare for very considerable shooting. The spouse there has started large quarrel with musicians. Now I do not remember, because of what there was a conflict: it seems, someone in studio the first has not passed someone.

I have tried to act as the arbitrator:

– Sash, wait, can, you simply each other have misunderstood …

– Approach here for a minute, – he speaks to me.

I approach, is perfect nothing suspecting. It suffices me for shoulders – and strikes me on a head the head. I for an instant was disconnected. Has regained consciousness from a pain – the spouse continued me to beat. I look: walls deaf persons, a door thorough – good sound insulation – studio all the same. I began to shout – nobody has heard me. Has jumped, has slipped out. Shuisky has had time to give following only to me of a kick under back. I was on the fifth month of pregnancy. All the same at me a unique organism: till now I will not understand, why I have not given birth that day …

Houses waited for me parents. And here the daughter comes MAIN. All person – a continuous black bruise, a lip it is unwrapped. To all I have broken a finger (at me it a curve – has incorrectly grown together till now after crisis with displacement) and have beaten off kopchik.

I am on the back – a pain terrible. I think: what to do? At me a chest daughter. I am again pregnant. The habitation is not present. Works are not present. Money is not present. Documents at Shuisky.

I have called the psychiatrist who then worked with Shuisky.

Has told to it about all.

– What to me to do?

– The girl, feet in hands – also run, while it is whole. Go abroad – in Russia it to you will reach.

– How to me to get out documents? Where to take money? I live here on vyselkah, as in a zone, under supervision of the servant-supervisor employed by Shuisky. It for a second does not let out me from a field of vision!

I have all night long spent in poluzabyti. Shuisky in Krekshino has not arrived – reMAINed in Moscow.

Next day it was and declares from a threshold and again asks from me pardons with great mildness in a look.

Bifurcation

When I lived with Shuisky, all time seemed to me, that at me – a dual personality. All the same, what he spoke to me, I saw to myself not the most bad singer, the normal mistress, devoted mother. Before his eyes, probably, the life of another of a being any absolutely proceeded. Those charges, that he cried out during terrible scandals with which arranged almost daily, obviously concerned any other person.

How many work always was at my visagiste of Lena Tjukovoj! As long and diligently it covered bruises on my person! On skolkim to cities we have passed: I – with bruises, it with bankoj a voice-frequency cream!

1994.

To the house have made an extension. Shuisky supervised process:

– Where a dryer have hung up?

– In a bathroom. All is already ready, – I have shy answered. – you asked to hang up there. Has put it there.

– That for collective farm – in a bathroom a dryer!!

Also has gone-has gone, as a snow clod from mountain.

We then were visited by both mums – its and my.

Suddenly Shuisky snatches out a service pistol and shoots at a wall by me.

– The following bullet will be in you!

It was not drunk, but became as drunk. Has set us, three women, abreast and began to act before us as in circus – to explain what I awful and that with me it is necessary to make. Torture lasted more than six hours.

I ask the God: though more soon childbirth would begin! Then it will spare me! Would bring me now to hospital, would make something that I have started to give birth. Though week would have a rest!

The son

My organism works like clock-work: childbirth has begun in time. In two weeks after this scene my son Artemy – the Theme was born.

When to the boy there was a half a year, I have told to mum:

– It will not give to the boy of a life. Carry it in Atkarsk. Here the child will not see neither caresses, nor love.

The theme most than my children loves Atkarsk and the grandmother with the grandfather. Why? Clear business …

Theme of veins with the grandmother and the grandfather in Atkarske half a year. When to it year was executed, I have returned it MAIN. I think: Shuisky has thought again. I so missed on the child! But far from it.

… It from a threshold of the beginnings to beat me: beat feet, fists, that came across under a hand.

From blow I had a brain concussion. All has gone out – I have lost consciousness …

In the morning – silence.

I have regained consciousness, all black from a beating. Toshnit. The head is turned. Around blood.

Shuisky who has swelled up from a hang-over has woken up. Left on kitchen. And there, as to spite, about a plate turned small Temka.

– I how many time spoke to you, that you did not touch a plate!

It has seized the kid, has thrown in a corridor and there has closed.

Theme all iskrichalsja, even obkakalsja for fear. I am hardly live, to a sonny anything I can not help. And Shuisky fists waves.

It has pulled out from a corridor shouting, hungry, obkakavshegosja the Theme and has thrown to the nurse:

– A dung piece!

... It was necessary to cause, of course, "fast", militia to examine bruises. But at me for this purpose never gunpowder sufficed. It was a shame to admit that I am am beaten by the husband … Thank God, children during that moment of the house were not, and they did not become witnesses of this awful scene.

Sometimes I was visited by terrible thought. And what, if when he sleeps to strike its one of the dumbbells always laying about a bed? I was afraid to go to prison: how children will be without me?

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Agree, there is, that a partner, dushoju which and acts you admire and about night with which dreamt literally, suddenly it appears is not too good in bed. Why so it turns out? Whether so it is bad as the lover? The reason of the similar... In sexual incompatibility, instead of in its inconsistency!

In a large quantity of divorces at all it is not necessary to blame wreck of a love boat about a life and serious divergences for systems of values.

More often the reason is banal - sex, namely - catastrophic misunderstanding each other in territory of a matrimonial bed.

It is a question of sexual compatibility - the guarantor of personal happiness. Astrologists, sexologists and psychologists have deduced the formulas of sexual compatibility.

1. The conflict of temperaments

Sexual compatibility directly depends on sexual temperament which, as is known, exists three kinds: strong, average and weak. Temperament to bring up it is impossible.

We are born with certain level of sexual hormones, our nervous activity - without dependence from our desire - works in the rhythm, therefore the sexual temperament reMAINs invariable throughout all life.

Owners of strong sexual temperament in the childhood quite often named akseleratami. They early ripen, early start to live a sexual life and deliver to the parents many efforts.

Sex occupies one of the first places in their life, and sometimes there is an impression what exactly is aimed at sexual satisfaction all their existence. Daily employment by sex - norm for this type of the sexual constitution.

As a rule, it is women and men of low or average growth with raised ovoloseniem on a body (fault to all testosterony). Extroverts, energetic and self-assured people.

Owners of weak sexual temperament ripen much after many contemporaries.

They begin a sexual life almost for ten years later, than representatives of strong temperament, but quite often appear one-woman men and build strong families which a life, "a grey hair in a beard" appear are not terrible.

Sex of times in a week quite suffices them, other sincere forces leave on romanticism and friendly conversations under a blanket.

As a rule, it is high thin men and women. At women a small breast and narrow hips, at men - thin womanly figures without special "woolliness".

Representatives of average sexual temperament the majority, and their sexual preferences strongly vary between two above described extreme measures.

Certainly, the man with strong sexual temperament accepts the same partner, and on the contrary. Problems begin when we build the union without sexual compatibility.

From here - expression "family sex", become by an ordinary and boredom synonym, from here changes and crises.

2. Whether your planets are on friendly terms?

The most popular approach to sexual compatibility - astrological.

It is considered, that if your planet is in negative aspect to a partner planet relations will start to go to pieces sooner or later.

For example, Scales and the Aries will clash, reflecting a space duel of planets prevailing over them - Venus and Mars.

But do not hasten to trust sexual horoscopes blindly.

The professional astrologist who will make your personal horoscope can give more or less exact forecast only and will formulate some instructions for sexual compatibility.

3. The Woman-mother searches for the man-son

Sexual compatibility is inseparable from psychotypes of partners.

So. The woman-mother waits the man on whom can give vent, at last, to all boundless care, therefore the infantile man-son becomes the best partner for it.

The woman-victim wishes to submit, feel a weak victim in hands of an omnipotent man-aggressor.

As a rule, such woman has variety of favourite Hollywood actors, and their lines make its ideal: Wines the Diesel engine, Stephen Sigal, as a last resort, Kianu Rivz and James Bond in any ipostasi.

The woman-aggressor in a pointed manner contemptiously concerns all representatives of a masculine gender. It it is underlined it is independent, independent and strong.

She competes to the man and prefers to be from above - in all senses. The Man-aggressor will provoke the present war, and here the man-victim becomes suitable extraction of such woman.

The woman-daughter prefers to live for the husband, as behind a stone wall. It is ready to depend completely on the favourite person if only that cared of it, indulgently concerned its weaknesses and has relieved of necessity to earn money.

The unique possible partner which will provide absolute sexual compatibility - the man-father.

4. We with you of one blood...

Japanese consider, that sexual compatibility depends on blood group.

Men and women of I group - most sexually active, their thoughts come back to sex each nine seconds.

Thus women of this group give all sexuality to the unique partner - to the husband more often.

Women of II group are most passive, they are reputed as iron ladies and biznesvumen. The man of this group is irresolute and closed, and employment by sex for it are inseparable from deep emotional contact.

The woman of III group of blood does not find in sex anything curious. It with ease and negligence concerns the sexual contacts, quite often misses in bed and prefers to sex set of other hobbies.

The same moods are peculiar also to the man: sex for it - entertainment, is not better and is not worse than any other daily hobby.

The woman of IV group of blood can practically take pleasure with each partner, it easily adapts to the man with any temperament and differs really powerful libido.

The man of this group has got used to dement women and, unlike the man with I group, sex for it - not an instinct, and art.

The greatest compatibility is provided with coincidence of groups of blood of partners. Also it is quite good, if blood groups appear "next" - I and II, III IV.

5. Diagnoses does not exist!

Nevertheless, there is no universal formula of sexual compatibility. For example, "the temperamental model" has one "but".

For weak sexual temperament quite often accept the qualities imparted by Puritan education, deformed by complexes and negative experience of MAIN life.

Unfortunately, so happens: passionate by nature the woman after couple of years of a matrimonial life with far not the best man becomes reserved, suppresses the sexuality and the Dark blue stocking turns to the Ms.

Do not hasten to hang up on itself labels and to give up as a bad job mutual relations: heart-to-heart talks with the psychoanalyst, the family psychotherapist or the sexologist work wonders.

Also there are no bad psychotypes: problems begin when people play another's roles.

The infantile man should pretend to be the head of the family while above all it would like to shift duties on shoulders of the careful woman-mother.

The man-victim adjusts itself to parametres of the man "average, strong, courageous", and at this time the woman-aggressor stays in proud and hopeless loneliness.

Here there can not be other council, except as "be itself and do not go on compromises with own requirements".

And the set of problems with inappropriate group of blood can resolve the creative approach to sexual relations and trust to the partner.

For example, the same classification asserts, that if the man manages to "wake" the lady of II group, equal to it will not be.

Do not hasten to destroy "incompatible" relations, - search for new possibilities within the limits of already existing union.

The comment of the expert:

Maria Zolotov, the doctor-dermatovenerolog:

«Besides the above described reasons, sexual incompatibility can arise at so-called physiological sexual incompatibility.

The similar variant of disharmony meets at discrepancy of the sizes of genitals of sexual partners. For example, the big sexual member and a narrow vagina. At such combination the woman will test more likely painful sensations, rather than pleasure.

On the contrary, at the small size of a genital at the man and great volume of a vagina at the woman, also will be faster to lead to a dissatisfaction with sexual relations.

In some cases to overcome physiological sexual incompatibility it is possible by a choice of optimum poses for employment by sex, in some is not present.

The modern medicine can offer and such variants, as, use of special adaptations for the sexual member, limiting depth of its penetration, surgical and bezoperatsionnye methods on increase in a sexual member, ushivanie vaginas at its great volume. How much often there is a given type of incompatibility to tell difficultly, it is considered, that similar problems - a rarity.

Some conditions and diseases can lead also to disharmony in sexual relations. For example, premature semjaizverzhenie, a prostatitis, an impotence, inflammatory diseases of genitals. The given conditions demand the unconditional reference to the doctor.

Psychological and psycho-physiological variants of sexual incompatibility are much more widespread. Two these of a variant differ from each other.

Psychological sexual incompatibility is characterised by the various relation of partners to a sex theme in general, to oral sex, analnomu to sex, group sex, a choice of the sexual positions, each of them has the borders permitted and readiness for those or other experiments.

The given kind of sexual incompatibility is difficult enough for overcoming independently without the aid of the skilled doctor-sexologist.

As to psycho-physiological incompatibility, incompatibility from for different sexual temperaments about it it is very in detail written above.

Choosing the sexual partner, be guided not only physiology, but also feelings. And MAIN thing, do not judge the sexual partner only on the first episode of sexual affinity.

At sexual relations with the constant sexual partner duration of sexual intercourse increases, there are closer and confidential relations which are difficult for achieving at the first sexual contact ».

Darya PETCHORIN

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Sex besides pleasure brings and many problems. To physical affinity except quite healthy people aspire also elderly, pregnant, suffering barreness... And in each of these cases with a sexual life many problems are connected.

Sex at mature age

For some reason it is considered to be, that old men are not engaged in sex and do not test in it any need. However researches show, that it at all so.

Except age on sexual activity in an old age the big influence three more parametres - sexual activity during a life render, a condition of physical and mental health. It appears, the majority of people which have got used to frequent sexual communications, conduct an active sexual life and after 80 years. Certainly, if it allows a condition of their health. Older persons not only feel necessity for sex, but quite often receive from it even bolshee, than in a youth, pleasure.

Among complexities with which, wishing to adjust the sexual life, older persons face, the important role is played by somatic diseases. Especially uneasy it is necessary what joints are amazed by an arthritis. It is not necessary to forget also about illnesses of cardiovascular system which do not allow people to transfer even insignificant physical activity.

Certainly, there are also difficulties of the socially-psychological plan. In a society there are standards of beauty and sexual appeal. And older persons take hard, up to occurrence of depressions, that every year this "standard" all further and to find to itself the partner it is almost impossible. Especially difficult it is necessary the become a widow/widower women, because in their age group, as a rule, serious "lack" of men.

Sexual problems of older persons, not wishing that, doctors aggravate even. The matter is that many of them divide a stereotype, that the sexual life is not necessary to old men. As a result, neither the doctor, nor the patient do not dare to start talking about sexual problems and consequently, do not solve them.

Sexual life at barreness

It would seem, barreness should not stir a usual sexual life in any way. However, psychologists, in practice speak it not so. First, this disease is the reason of anxiety, despair, depression which, undoubtedly, influence a sexual life.

Besides it to close relations stirs process of treatment of barreness: the matter is that many necessary medical examinations are spent only to the short period of time after sexual intercourse. Accordingly last from physiological requirement turns to requirement purely medical. And, unpleasant.

For the pairs, suffering barreness, the risky sexual behaviour is characteristic. Thinking, that it will help to solve their problems, they go on casual communications, neglecting thus protection frames from venereal diseases. Sometimes at them the aspiration to the perverted kinds of sexual intercourses is traced.

Sex and pregnancy

One more condition which complicates a sexual life, pregnancy is. With vynashivaniem the child very serious changes in an organism of the woman are connected: from a figure to a hormonal background and behaviour. Therefore the majority of pregnant women consider, that to the child can damage many earlier habitual things. For example, there is an opinion, that the sexual life during pregnancy leads nevynashivaniju, to premature and prompt sorts, and also congenital uglinesses.

However, as results of researches testify, the regular sexual life practically does not affect in any way a current of first two trimesters of pregnancy. The unique problem - sexual intercourse can be painful enough for the woman. And in this case, really, sexual life can be stopped temporarily.

Sexual infringements during pregnancy are characteristic not only for the woman, but also for its partner-man. He, as well as his wife, frequently is afraid to harm the future child and avoids sexual contacts. Against this phobia can develop and purely "man's" infringements - an impotence and premature ejakuljatsija.

Three described above a condition - barreness, an old age and pregnancy is only examples from a number of factors which make considerable impact on a sexual life. Besides it, sexual infringements arise because of illnesses, psychological and physical traumas and many other things circumstances...

And, coming to the doctor, the patient it is not necessary to hesitate to speak about the intimate problems connected with the basic disease. On the other hand, it is a pity, that the doctor is not interested in infringements in sexual sphere - he considers it not as the business. And in vain. The majority of such problems are quite solved.

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"The majority of the people hiding the indisposition in an operating time, do not guess serious consequences. Besides they extend an infection among colleagues, they approach own death", – professor Michael Mormot (Michael Marmot), supervising research has noted.

Many mass media have become interested in research. Among them – television channel BBC 2 which has devoted the whole program to the given problem. Even with small cold, – it was spoken in the program, – work can have strong influence on a human body and it will be quite enough for occurrence of heart attacks without dependence from, whether much this person smokes or how much strongly he takes a great interest in alcohol.

Such loud statement that presence of the sick employee on a workplace kills him, puts additional questions before employers and medical workers. The given researches for certain in the near future will interest also lawyers.

Professional association Institute of Directors has expressed doubts concerning research data as by authors it is not presented any convincing communication between loading on work, stress and heart diseases.

"The stress on a workplace definitely should be considered as separate aspect of the given problem. Conclusions that these two concepts are interconnected to do while early, even taking into account the received data", – representative Institute of Directors has noted.

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You sometime thought of what sexual life, for example, at inhabitants of Thailand or Africa? Is not present? And in vain. Sexual preferences in the different countries very various.

India

India is among those countries where still try to observe all customs and traditions. For example, unlike the standard abstention before wedding the Indian inhabitants abstain from sex after wedding! A pier, it is necessary to get accustomed at first, well to learn each other, and sex and other similar nonsenses can be left on then. But free men and women have sex when want and where want, and are engaged in it long and delightfully. I think, you have already guessed, that speech has gone about tantristah. Tantristy, people engaged the Tantra-yoga, are convinced of divine mission of love. For them sex it not simply physical communication of two opposite sexes, but also spiritual. Tantristy make love only to the favourite person, instead of with the first comer. Love pleasure at them can last some hours, partners tyre each other out.

Thailand

All have got used to think of Thailand as almost about one of the most dissolute and liberated countries. And after all actually all yes on the contrary. Everything, as to levity concerns only tourists and visitors. Actually with a sexual life at them it is difficult. To the man to persuade the woman to make love before wedding extremely difficult, and all because dobrachnye communications there are very categorical. But, if young all the same not "doterpeli", they ask pardons for spirits of ancestors. And before marriage night, the huge cat should visit a room of a newly-married couple at first, he promises to make a life newly married happy and long!

Japan

Inhabitants of the country of a rising sun concern very quiveringly a sexual life. First time after acquaintance loving pair alone do not leave. Always there should be a matchmaker (as a rule, this role is executed always by the mother-in-law). All this time she assiduously praises highly the child – that better her son simply is not present anybody on light. There was at Japanese such custom – the first marriage night should pass in presence of the mother-in-law (well, that it was earlier) which learnt the daughter-in-law how correctly to caress her son! The doctrine for in vain is visible has not passed, time of the Japanese is considered as the best sexual partners in the world. Has not managed at Japanese and without the traditional holidays, one of which is the fertility holiday, which symbol – a phallus! What is, the length of this "unit" reaches 2,5 m! All representatives of a female aim will touch «a fertility symbol», under the legend it should bring it of strong kiddies. And here that in a family there was a harmony and mutual understanding Japanese celebrate other holiday of fertility – as you already, probably, has guessed a symbol is – a vagina! Interestingly, how much nevertheless Japanese in marriage are happy?

England

England – the most frigid country! 80 % of women and 73 % of men in this country have sex only with one partner, and every eighth of them had sexual relations unless 1-2 times for the last year! Yes … Englishmen it not Frenchmen, passion not their role.

Yes what to speak, if during the Victorian epoch of the lady from society should lay in bed in literal sense as a log. Any movements, ohov and ahov should not be was. Probably therefore all high-ranking men ran from the wives to passionate laundresses.

But, that the most interesting Englishmen are quite happy with the sexual life, considering, that the most important quality, instead of quantity. Well, unless it is possible to argue with it?

Germany

The country of sex shops, erotic video, pletok and handcuffs. It is difficult to assume, that in this country once there were interdictions and sex customs. In Sverdnevekove, hot German men took with themselves in bed – are not present, not the mother-in-law – an axe! They sincerely believed, that if during time orgazma will get an axe, moreover and will show to his wife it is obligatory to be born the boy. Miraculously, the truth? But judging because now so nobody does, the given tradition has appeared not effective.

Africa

Here where sexual etiquette as they say without restrictions. Inhabitants of Africa presume to themselves all – oral sex, group sex, svinger etc. But, however, Africans quickly justify the "bad" behaviour that all it promotes a crop! Here so go since morning in the field and "invite" a crop as soon as "will call in" go MAIN.

Men also are authorised to have so much wives, how many they will wish – yes, in Africa the harem too is extended.

As to ancient customs which have sunk into oblivion at their Africans was much. For example, to deprive of virginity the girl the groom, and the leader should not. Well, Africans have understood, that here anything cheerful is not present and have improved tradition. Now the bride has a good time with all visitors of a holiday as it is cheerful, probably, during such moments to the groom!

America

Here about what it is possible to write the whole book, so it about sexual etiquette of the United States – each staff – the laws. And these laws at times reach to the point of irrationality. For example, in the State of Louisiana a duty to get a condom lays down on fragile shoulders of the woman if the man tries to buy a protection subject, it can fine. Or still other not less absurd law – in the State of Florida to have sex it is possible only in darkness, only in messionerskoj to a pose and the man has not the right to kiss a breast of the woman. Interestingly, who it checks and how many already fined lovers?

If you will be going to go to America, specify what laws in that staff where you go. Much not informed tourists, probably, opened there the purses.

Summing up, it would be desirable to tell – as well, that we have freedom in choosing, the personal inviolable life for which the page in the criminal code is not taken away.

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